I’m about to break down some real knowledge that could save you a lot of heartache. We all been there - dealing with people who claim they got love for you but their actions tell a completely different story. So if you are tired dealing with fake love. Here’s how to spot fake love from a mile away.
1. They Only Hit You Up When They Need Something
You haven’t heard from this person in weeks. Your phone stays quiet all day, then suddenly they’re blowing you up because they need a favor, money, or want you to be their therapist for their latest drama. Real love doesn’t have an agenda attached to it.
2. Your Success Makes Them Uncomfortable
Pay attention to how people react when good things happen to you. Fake love can’t celebrate your wins without making it about them somehow. They’ll downplay your achievements or suddenly have “bigger news” to share right after you tell them something good.
3. They’re Always “Too Busy” for You
But somehow they got time for everyone else. They can post stories all day but can’t return your text for three days? That energy tells you everything you need to know about where you stand with them.
4. They Talk Behind Your Back
If they are gossiping about other people to you, best believe they’re talking about you to other people. Authentic love doesn’t come with backstabbing. Real ones keep your business private and defend you when you’re not around.
5. Everything’s Conditional
“I’ll do this IF you do that.” “I love you BECAUSE you…” Real love isn’t a transaction. When someone’s always keeping score or making their affection dependent on what you can do for them, that’s fake love territory.
6. They Disappear During Your Hard Times
Fake love is fair-weather only. The moment things get tough in your life, they ghost you. Real love shows up when you’re going through it, not just when everything’s smooth sailing.
7. They Never Remember What Matters to You
You’ve told them about your important events, your struggles, your dreams - but they never remember or ask follow-up questions. These type of people are physically present but emotionally checked out. That’s not love, that’s just going through the motions.
8. They Make Everything About Them
You try to share something important and somehow the conversation always circles back to their problems, their stories, their drama. Real love makes space for both people to be heard and supported.
9. Their Words Don’t Match Their Actions
They say all the right things but their behavior tells a different story. They’ll tell you they care but won’t make time for you. They will say that you matter to them but treat you like you’re disposable. Actions always speak louder than words.
10. Your Gut Tells You Something’s Off
Trust that feeling in your stomach. Your intuition picks up on energy that your logical mind might try to rationalize away. If something feels fake, it probably is. Don’t ignore those red flags because you want to believe the best in people.
The Bottom Line
Life’s too short to waste time on people who aren’t genuine with their love and loyalty. You deserve people in your corner who show up consistently, celebrate your wins, and stick around through your losses. Don’t settle for fake love just because it’s familiar or because you’re afraid of being alone.
Real recognize real, and once you know what real love looks like, you’ll never accept anything less. Keep your circle tight and your standards high. You’re worth the real thing.
Stay woke, stay protected, and remember - quality over quantity every time.